People often say to me that I am the most positive person they know and so I got to thinking, and it’s a good thing to think, about my positivity and how it came about. I wasn’t always this positive, so what changed and how?
The simple fact is I changed my mind. I didn’t like the way I was feeling, living and I became curious as I looked around and compared my life to that of others. I could see that the happiness I was in search of wasn’t in more money, better jobs or other stuff. There were plenty of people out there with less in these areas than me and they looked calm and happy.
Then I asked myself the key question…What do I want…this was a first, I could rhyme off the things I didn’t want, but had no idea what I wanted. I had been so busy fire fighting or treading water as some people call it, so busy in my drama that I simply didn’t know.
It was at this point that I began to get to know myself, my real self and I changed my mind. I started to set and work toward small goals and the more I achieved the better my life became and now when I think about those changes, and there were many, there was one thing I changed that comes to mind and stands out above others…I changed my language, my choice of words. Firstly I changed my external language from negative to positive which was followed by the same change in my internal dialogue.
Positive language and thoughts are very powerful and my life becomes more amazing every day. As soon as I catch myself thinking negatively I smile to myself and turn it around…it works…I know…it has changed my life or should I say I have changed my life.
One way to start this change process could be to exchange the word why for how. The more you ask the why question the more your brain comes up with answers…for example…why do I always lose my keys, why do I always end up late…Change why to how and we have how can I find my keys, how can I keep them safe, how can I be on time…
When I change why for how it feels more powerful, positive and I am taking control of the situation, it’s reflected in my body language too as I often catch myself smiling at my own hilarity.
I am so pleased I changed my mind. Don’t take my word for it, try it for yourself and see…
Finally, “How powerful is your mind.” Find out next issue.